If a misguided father, in the interests of preventing pride from taking root in his children, offered criticism after criticism, the results would not be what he anticipated. Instead of rearing humble children, he would bring up neurotic and jumpy children. “What is it now?” would be their constant internal question. But another father who praised, honored, accepted, delighted in, and rejoiced over his children would be bringing up secure children, children who are able to forget themselves in the interests of others.
I think I know people who get this way because of the way they interpret how providence has dealt with them. For most people, Job doesn’t need three friends. They are already in his head.
So how do you tell these people to deal? How do you tell them to heal?
One solution is worship accompanied by the kind of excellent exhortation that Doug gives. But I think I need to think about more ways and means.