Comments on: Mommy Mortification http://www.hornes.org/2003/11/mommy-mortification/ Wed, 07 Jan 2009 12:20:48 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.6.5 By: jennifer http://www.hornes.org/2003/11/mommy-mortification/#comment-546 jennifer Tue, 04 Nov 2003 23:12:17 +0000 http://www.hornes.org/?p=211#comment-546 The man who heard Abigail may have been a little hurt, but he knows how much he weighs and he is an adult who can probably handle the comment of a 4-year-old. It is right to want to teach our children to say what is nice, but they need a chance to mature and learn what our culture deems as nice. I think most adults know that kids are just making observations when they say things that if said by an adult would be inappropriate. I think your approach of talking to Abigail in the car is the best way to teach her when the opportunity presented itself. The man who heard Abigail may have been a little hurt, but he knows how much he weighs and he is an adult who can probably handle the comment of a 4-year-old. It is right to want to teach our children to say what is nice, but they need a chance to mature and learn what our culture deems as nice. I think most adults know that kids are just making observations when they say things that if said by an adult would be inappropriate. I think your approach of talking to Abigail in the car is the best way to teach her when the opportunity presented itself.

]]> By: Tricia http://www.hornes.org/2003/11/mommy-mortification/#comment-545 Tricia Mon, 03 Nov 2003 23:07:26 +0000 http://www.hornes.org/?p=211#comment-545 I agree totally with you, but how do I get across to Abigail just what is "nice" what is not? In her world, being fat is not a bad thing. Truly. She is innocent of the fact that some people who are overweight might not be too pleased about it. Or at least she was until today. I'm guessing there are many other situations where a lack of sensitivity due to just being so young is going to come into play. Same goes for the little girl of a friend of mine who announced to her mother one day in the TNPC Ladies' restroom that a particular church member, who was also in the room at the time, had a large posterior. The little girl was in no way wanting to be malicious...in her own mind, she was merely making an observation! I agree totally with you, but how do I get across to Abigail just what is “nice” what is not? In her world, being fat is not a bad thing. Truly. She is innocent of the fact that some people who are overweight might not be too pleased about it. Or at least she was until today. I’m guessing there are many other situations where a lack of sensitivity due to just being so young is going to come into play.

Same goes for the little girl of a friend of mine who announced to her mother one day in the TNPC Ladies’ restroom that a particular church member, who was also in the room at the time, had a large posterior. The little girl was in no way wanting to be malicious…in her own mind, she was merely making an observation!

]]> By: Jenny http://www.hornes.org/2003/11/mommy-mortification/#comment-544 Jenny Mon, 03 Nov 2003 21:54:19 +0000 http://www.hornes.org/?p=211#comment-544 ... Thumper, he was a cute little rabbit, asked the mama deer what she was going to call her baby. She smiled and looked down at her son and then at Thumper. " I am going to call him Bambi," she said. Thumper stood there for a moment, thumping his foot. "That's a funny name", he said at last. Thumper's mommy scolded him, very gently, "Thumper", she said, "What did your father tell you this morning?" Thumper hung his head down, just a bit and replied, "If you can't say something nice, don't say nothin at all!" And you know, that is really what we should all remember. We should always remember to say nice things about each other. … Thumper, he was a cute little rabbit, asked the mama deer what she was going to call her baby.

She smiled and looked down at her son and then at Thumper. ” I am going to call him Bambi,” she said. Thumper stood there for a moment, thumping his foot.

“That’s a funny name”, he said at last.

Thumper’s mommy scolded him, very gently, “Thumper”, she said, “What did your father tell you this morning?”

Thumper hung his head down, just a bit and replied, “If you can’t say something nice, don’t say nothin at all!”

And you know, that is really what we should all remember. We should always remember to say nice things about each other.

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